Downsizing is more than just getting rid of stuff

Photo by Ketut Subiyanto I have recently moved out of a large house in Silicon Valley to a bedroom in the East Bay. I hear this is called “downsizing”. As I packed and moved my stuff and now unpack it all, I’ve discovered that downsizing means more...

Changing from a Caregiver to an Advocate

I was revising my author bio when I suddenly stopped. “Author, Teacher, Caregiver…” Wait. I’m not a caregiver anymore. I have identified as my daughter’s caregiver for almost 30 years. But she moved out to live in a group home where other...

Just an Ordinary Mom

Points of the compass, board-walk, seats by Robin Webster is licensed under CC-BY-SA 2.0* My daughter still complains about her new life in the group home every time I visit her. “I don’t like that I have to wait when I have to go to the bathroom,”...

It feels like when she went to preschool

Photo by Anete Lusina on Pexels.com It felt so much like when Rhia started pre-school. But this time, it was the first day of her day-program. I came to support communication between her and the staff using my basic, adapted-for-Rhia, Sign Language. She sat in the art...

I may have underestimated how hard this would be.

truckload household goods being moved by Library of Congress is licensed under CC-CC0 1.0 I thought it would take just two months for me to find some kind of balance and for Rhia to settle into her new life at the group home. What is two months of respite compared to...